tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post1766758070921658752..comments2023-11-02T07:53:23.585-04:00Comments on We Can Relate: Should we keep exes in our lives?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-41889364421189955062007-04-23T11:53:00.000-04:002007-04-23T11:53:00.000-04:00ok, I have read these comments - I have to disagre...ok, I have read these comments - I have to disagree on a few things - first off I'm an ex - and my ex and I had a hard time in the beginning and I left a 21 yr relationship with him - but we have moved on - we communicate - sure it's hard - but we have our new partners take part in all communication and having to be part of family functions - I don't see why ex's can't be friends - if you're open with the new partner - explain that all decisions are discussed between the partners - but the over all decision will be between the ex and yourself - as to be being friends - there is always that bond - that won't leave no matter - you just have to make sure that the new person in your life has first priorities before the ex - you can't always run to the ex if something goes wrong - it's up to you to be the grown up and deal with it - sure you might want their opinion - but you better first go to the new partner - communication is the key folks - use it - don't be so foolish and always run to the ex - sure the 2 of you should be friends - but draw the line - don't confuse what you should have had in the beginning with what you have now - because if you had this type of relationship when you were together - then you would have never broken up - you can't go back once you leave you stay gone -you move forward - don't carry the past with you - let your ex move on just as you have to move on - sure keep the friendship - but draw alineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-83366350197182558062007-04-17T10:15:00.000-04:002007-04-17T10:15:00.000-04:00My mother and father were together for 13 years be...My mother and father were together for 13 years before splitting 12 years ago and they are still each other's best friend. They share me and a lot of years of togetherness so I guess they still look to each other. That being said, my father has not had a significant relationship since they split because he doesn't feel like he can go there with another woman. My mother has had several serious relationships, but now that I am into my twenties, her most recent boyfriends are having a lot of trouble with their closeness even though these boyfriends have not been left out. My mother has even brought her boyfriends over for parties at my Dad's house. As an unbiased observer I can say that it is very possible for exes to have strong and lasting friendships, but I have to agree that it is at a cost to any present or future relationships no matter how open you are. I personally would not stay in a relationship with a man who couldn't let go of an ex even if it was only friendship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-1047525925280504992007-04-07T13:15:00.000-04:002007-04-07T13:15:00.000-04:00Exes are exes for a reason and it is a person self...Exes are exes for a reason and it is a person selfness that allows them to believe they need to stay in contact with their ex. They are only looking for trouble when they allow the ex to stay in the picture. If you have children with your ex, then that would be different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-2627297384375115212007-04-06T01:48:00.000-04:002007-04-06T01:48:00.000-04:00All my exes live in Texas.All my exes live in Texas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-71484385270249449232007-04-05T07:50:00.000-04:002007-04-05T07:50:00.000-04:00I guess this is one of the reason why the divorce ...I guess this is one of the reason why the divorce rate is so high these days. What happened to the days when people RESPECTED their marriage and relationship. Anon 5:13 shouldnt your friends being your boyfriends friends also. Scary world....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-68587906261232437192007-04-04T17:13:00.000-04:002007-04-04T17:13:00.000-04:00One of my exes became one of my best friends. That...One of my exes became one of my best friends. That was, of course, after not speaking for a year. We realized that we didn't work in a relationship because we're too similar, which works well in a good friendship because we share experiences and give good advice. His girlfriend knows about me and tries to be very friendly with me. My boyfriend knows about this, and while he's not up to being friends with my ex, he accepts the few times I need to him. Eventually, I stopped looking at him as an ex, but only as my friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-56528908736145352882007-04-04T08:06:00.000-04:002007-04-04T08:06:00.000-04:00I must agree with Dierdre on this one. Exes may st...I must agree with Dierdre on this one. Exes may still be friends, but in the context of a marriage, must be very casual, distant friends. It's about keeping your spouse as your number ONE relationship, and by a very large margin.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-58057035660081139422007-04-03T13:25:00.000-04:002007-04-03T13:25:00.000-04:00Exes are exes for a reason. I think that as we get...Exes are exes for a reason. I think that as we get older and mature in relationships that it also becomes more difficult to "just be friends" with an ex especially if you are in a committed relationship now. Most exes have ulterior motives and they are purely for selfish reasons no matter how the ex will try to justify the "friendship." I have been on both sides of the fence and I have no desire to befriend my exes nor befriend my boyfriend's exes. How can you live in the present when your past is lingering around?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-27760642589331586522007-04-03T12:52:00.000-04:002007-04-03T12:52:00.000-04:00Ha Ha I think if anyone was being honest with them...Ha Ha I think if anyone was being honest with themselves they would not want their spouse chit chatting with an ex unless the ex is on their death bed or the other spouse is doing their share of chit chatting. To me is a big sign of disrespect of your own marriage....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com