tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post6734291380770169388..comments2023-11-02T07:53:23.585-04:00Comments on We Can Relate: Strangers calling us 'hun' and 'baby'Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-68741374127366427662007-07-20T02:33:00.000-04:002007-07-20T02:33:00.000-04:00Hmmm. I think toiletface is a great pet name for m...Hmmm. I think toiletface is a great pet name for maybe more than one mean-spirited person here. Geez. It's just a conversation! They have those in Charlotte, right? They certainly have them in most newsrooms.<BR/><BR/>Personally, there are some pet names I like and some I don't. Baby and babe and dear just don't feel right to me. If someone starts doing it on a regular basis, I'll stop 'em. But sweetie, sweetheart, darlin' ... I find 'em nice. And they won't say those nice words to someone who has offended, bothered, annoyed, etc. So I'm livin' right when I hear them. And I live in California!<BR/><BR/>I actually hate it when the 19 year old calls me ma'am! Wah! I'm not a ma'am! I'm still young. It's just a different kind of young. ... Of course, I accept it the ma'am though, 'cause that means someone taught him or her manners along the way! YEA!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-1068053683428884372007-07-17T11:24:00.000-04:002007-07-17T11:24:00.000-04:00Personally, I don't mind. i even use such terms my...Personally, I don't mind. i even use such terms myself but I usually reserve them for friends, children and non business settings. I won't call the 18 year old at the drive thru "Honey", but I will call a stranger honey if I want thier attention to ask for the time. its not done in offense but to nake up for a lack of name. I will use ma'am or miss in a business setting. I don't care if a guy uses those types of names as long as he is just being polite. Calling me baby everytime you say something on a business call is rude (true story) But I'd rather be called sweetheart than "Hey You!!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-982862902008042692007-07-13T11:32:00.000-04:002007-07-13T11:32:00.000-04:00I call different people by different names all the...I call different people by different names all the time. I refer to a lot of other guys a dude or man. Sometimes I refer to women as sugar or darlin' or sweetie, sometimes even hottie. Everyone needs to relax a little and not take offense to everything someone else says. I usually only use these terms with strangers because I don't know your name. Also, becase you are a stranger I really don't care that much if it bothers you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-31418881637179901072007-07-11T22:59:00.000-04:002007-07-11T22:59:00.000-04:00Honey, this is what I think: you can call me honey...Honey, this is what I think: you can call me honey, love, sweetie, all day long. It's a term of endearment to this woman, born and raised in NC. Only once did it make me uncomfortable, but that was the exception...the guy gave me the creeps. For those who don't like it, get over yourself and quit whining, sweetie!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-87984210196647686532007-07-10T04:23:00.000-04:002007-07-10T04:23:00.000-04:00No, there are more important things to worry about...No, there are more important things to worry about!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-37671078211244084232007-07-07T21:05:00.000-04:002007-07-07T21:05:00.000-04:00So let's see if I have this straight: If a man who...So let's see if I have this straight: If a man who is old enough to be Deirdre's father calls her sweetie, he's not innocently flirting, just being "paternal" (which is OK. We all know older men don't flirt, right? Ahem, yeah right). If a college-age young man calls Deirdre sweetie, it's not innocent flirting, it's downright disrespectful (how dare he!). But if a 29 or 30 year old guy at work calls her 'love', it's acceptable flirting because it gives her a thrill (i.e. she's attracted to him) and it fits within her narrow confines of acceptability. Jesus Deirdre, drop the ignorant stereotypes and relax already. Clearly Alisha's the chillin' one here. <BR/><BR/>It's ALL innocent flirting and why not take it as a compliment? When you're 55 or 60 and it ain't happening anymore, like another poster said, you'll miss it.<BR/><BR/>You sound like the kind of person who's just looking for offense ALL THE TIME.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-66503552760932741612007-07-06T19:49:00.000-04:002007-07-06T19:49:00.000-04:00to the people who are "offended" by terms of endea...to the people who are "offended" by terms of endearment and casual public words from polite people who dont know your names, you need to get the bug out of your but and get over it. no one has the right to not be offended. perhaps terms of endearment such as s**t, c**t, b**ch, wh*** would be more appropriate to you?????? hmmmmm? <BR/>what now? terms like "hon" and "dear" are politically incorrect to some people so now we all have walk on eggshells about every word. here's 2 of them for ya: screw you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-28480470213410850662007-07-06T16:42:00.000-04:002007-07-06T16:42:00.000-04:00From the Tiger post comments section:..The point i...From the Tiger post comments section:<BR/><BR/>..The point is that I have encountered soooo many black females in Charlotte that are obnoxious, outrageous, overbearing, and totally self-centered. They ... "cop an attitude" at the slightest provocation or perceived insult."<BR/><BR/>Sound familiar?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-30354160605200963602007-07-06T16:16:00.000-04:002007-07-06T16:16:00.000-04:00I don't see the point in "turning the tables" unle...I don't see the point in "turning the tables" unless you really want to be perceived as a shrew. Someone uses a term of endearment and you respond with an intentional insult? Way to alienate people for a trivial reason.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-69935822605481359772007-07-06T16:08:00.000-04:002007-07-06T16:08:00.000-04:00I'm 25, married, and use the term 'love' when talk...I'm 25, married, and use the term 'love' when talking to most women (my wife included). I don't know *why* I do it, it just sounds more personal and normally disarms whoever you are speaking with... Unless they don't expect it out of an American's mouth. The word 'love' is common as a term of endearment in Britain, but not so much in America.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-33575212655242384502007-07-06T15:40:00.000-04:002007-07-06T15:40:00.000-04:00What the HELL is this? This kind of crap does not...What the HELL is this? This kind of crap does not belong on Charlotte.com<BR/><BR/>Should be on twoLOSERStalkaboutwhathappenedatthebagelshopyesterdaywhentheywere stuffingtheirfaceswithcarbohydrates.com. go to the gym fattysAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-11858432869390402812007-07-06T15:26:00.000-04:002007-07-06T15:26:00.000-04:00Being from the South, I use the terms such as ma'a...Being from the South, I use the terms such as ma'am, sir and honey all the time to men as well as women. I think we're going overboard with trying to be political correct.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-5012521498663454452007-07-06T15:06:00.000-04:002007-07-06T15:06:00.000-04:00..It makes me smile when A southern boy calls me H.....It makes me smile when A southern boy calls me Honey , or .Miss... Ma'am ..Because I know it is becasue he has MANNERS !!<BR/> when a "Yankee" calls me Babe . Im skeeved out by it .. .. Bleck !Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12982609331010840293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-75312177409332529892007-07-06T14:17:00.000-04:002007-07-06T14:17:00.000-04:00As a 36 year old man who has grown up here, I am a...As a 36 year old man who has grown up here, I am a little surprised at this article. There is a huge difference between referring to someone as, "sweetheart, love, hun", etc. and saying things such as "Can I get at you, baby" or something about getting your number. Does context mean nothing to anyone these days??? Obviously the latter is very openly asking you for something. Where as the former is just a way to address someone. Huge difference. <BR/><BR/>I refer to women in this fashion due directly to this is how I was raised, here in Charlotte, NC. It is a term of respect to all women. It has NOTHING to do with me wanting to "get at you" or even get to know you more then the very casual meeting we happen to be in at that moment. I have never one time had any woman tell me she found this to be disrespectful in any fashion. <BR/><BR/>For people who have moved here from some other part of the world, maybe you all should realize that we do have a way of doing things here. And just because you move here, does not mean WE have to change our way of doing things to please you. If you prefer how things are done in places such as NYC, i.e. people walking by you not even acknowledging your existence, maybe that is the place for you to live? Or if you simply do not like being referred to in a flattering sort of way, you can always be polite and explain that to the person who just complimented you. Because it is a compliment to all women. Not everyone you cross paths with is trying to "get at you". We simply prefer to have a positive outlook on things. As opposed to always trying to find the "evil" in everyone. Have a great day, sweethearts!! :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-91023530390027414602007-07-06T13:36:00.000-04:002007-07-06T13:36:00.000-04:00Okay, here's my beef w/ "sweetie, hun, sugar..." a...Okay, here's my beef w/ "sweetie, hun, sugar..." and so on. If you are a woman(stranger) around my age (25) DO NOT refer to me with any term of endearment. I understand it's how I interpret it but to me, it's demeaning and disrespectful. My mom calls me sweetie not the girl behind the makeup counter. <BR/><BR/>As far as a guy... fine if they're over 50.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-15928332779810525682007-07-06T13:34:00.000-04:002007-07-06T13:34:00.000-04:00I grew up in the south and being called Darlin or ...I grew up in the south and being called Darlin or sweetie is something that i am used to. These days though, it mostly depends on the tone and body language as to whether or not it is offensive. Generally it is very easy to tell the difference between when someone is being genuine and when they are being sleezy. It always makes me smile when it is genuine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-18758779734613374362007-07-06T12:49:00.000-04:002007-07-06T12:49:00.000-04:00I don't mind an older man addressing me as sweethe...I don't mind an older man addressing me as sweetheart or love. However; when a really young guy approaches me with the "hey baby" thing it really bothers me. I am 37 but I look around 25. So I am approached by guys as young as 20 and they just aggrivate me with their terms that they think work. They actually think someone is going to appreciate things like "come here and let me holla at ya" or "dang baby, let me get your number". It is all about class and technique.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-54627142971503361392007-07-06T12:47:00.000-04:002007-07-06T12:47:00.000-04:00Don't...you...have...anything...else...to...concer...Don't...you...have...anything...else...to...concern...yourselves...with? Hypersensitive,hypercritical. Is it any wonder so many people cocoon themselves up in our society today? I'm a 50 year old man and think it is sad that we can't relate without looking for some form of motive. When every c omplimenet is scrutinized for the slightest political incorrectness, I find that more offensive than an offhanded compliment, no matter what the intent.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-5546876596917351682007-07-06T12:38:00.000-04:002007-07-06T12:38:00.000-04:00Hear the sirens? It't the politically correct pol...Hear the sirens? It't the politically correct police on the way again!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-27138896350003788042007-07-06T12:23:00.000-04:002007-07-06T12:23:00.000-04:00Ladies! It is called flirting! Enjoy it or ignore...Ladies! It is called flirting! Enjoy it or ignore it, but someday you WILL miss it. From a 44 y/o, native Charlottean, hunny. VBarnettAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-25796568227642455712007-07-06T12:20:00.000-04:002007-07-06T12:20:00.000-04:00I was born and raised here and I really don't pay ...I was born and raised here and I really don't pay it any attention. Until recently, that's just the way it always was. Personally, I really like it. However, there have been a few times that it has given me the creeps. It's all in the way someone says it. <BR/><BR/>I don't understand how it would offend someone - but I do respect that. <BR/><BR/>JulieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-30020189707376900582007-07-06T11:38:00.000-04:002007-07-06T11:38:00.000-04:00As long as it's not said in a condescending way it...As long as it's not said in a condescending way it just shouldn't be a problem. I don't use terms like that very often at all, but once in a while they do slip out and taken in the tone and manner offered, they're no big deal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-18774839835497215022007-07-06T10:43:00.000-04:002007-07-06T10:43:00.000-04:00As a woman, I am usually offended when people addr...As a woman, I am usually offended when people address me as "hun," "sweetheart," and the like. When I travel I appreciate people addressing me sans the condescending nicknames/pet names we have in the South. It seems much more prevalent in the South, sadly, and I've had to correct men and women who make this blunder. I like the idea another reader had of turning the tables and calling the individual something THEY might find disrespectful. Bottom line is that people need to be conscious of who they are interacting with and not force their language on someone who may be offended. I know I'm not alone in my discontent with this growing trend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-77744210295128427322007-07-06T10:17:00.000-04:002007-07-06T10:17:00.000-04:00If a man addresses me with a name I don't like, I...If a man addresses me with a name I don't like, I turn the tables and casually address them with that word as well. Interesting to see the shocked faces on most of them!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32667793.post-51293194983158178212007-07-06T09:49:00.000-04:002007-07-06T09:49:00.000-04:00When a woman of any age even like 70 says hun, swe...When a woman of any age even like 70 says hun, sweetie, darling, it makes me feel great. I'm 32 and single. I try not to use terms of endearment as I'm from the liberal NE and most females in that part of the country take issue with it. I don't do it, but love it when it happens to me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com