Tuesday, November 21, 2006

This is for the ladies!

First things first: I saw "Casino Royale" -- which stars Daniel Craig, one of my husbands -- over the weekend, and girls, trust me on this one: Go.

Now to the topic at hand:

I often delete the forwarded forwards my friends and family send, but the following must've caught me at the right moment, because I felt the need to share. While it's aimed at black women, I think it's really universal (besides, plenty of non-black chicks get hair weaves, too!) So ladies -- all ladies -- this for you.

To all my girls - single, married, or otherwise: 24 things a sista should never apologize for

1. Never apologize for pursuing what makes you happy. Even if you need to quit your job, transfer schools, or move across country, always do what you really want.
2. Never apologize for using proper English. Keeping it real doesn't mean you have to speak Ebonics.
3. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just didn't work out.
4. Never apologize for being successful. Only haters want to keep you at their level.
5. Never apologize for crying. Wear waterproof mascara and express yourself.
6. Never apologize for 10 pounds you need to lose. People who truly care about you will accept you as you are.
7. Never apologize for being frugal. Just because you save your money instead of blowing it on the latest fashion emergency doesn't mean you're cheap.
8. Don't apologize for being a single mom. Babies are a blessing.
9. Never apologize for treating yourself to something special. Sometimes you have to show yourself some appreciation.
10. Never apologize for leaving an abusive relationship. Your safety should always be a priority.
11. Never apologize for keeping the ring even if you did not get married.
12. Never apologize for setting high standards in a relationship. You know what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your nerves.
13. Never apologize for saying NO.
14. Never apologize for wearing a weave or braids. You bought it, so it's yours.
15. Never apologize to your new friends about old friends. There's a reason she's been your girl from day one.
16. Never apologize for ordering dessert or more than one dessert.
17. Never apologize for dating outside your race. Just because you found Mr. Right across the color line doesn't mean you don't love your brothas.
18. Never apologize for demanding respect. You are to always be treated as a queen.
19. Never apologize for not knowing how to cook. Even if you can't burn like Grandma, you know how to order good take out.
20. Never apologize for your taste in clothes. It's your style.
21. Never apologize for changing your mind; it is your prerogative.
22. Never apologize for making a decision from your heart, even if others don't agree. You have to live with the consequences, not them.
23. Never apologize for making more money than your man. You work hard and you deserve to get paid.
24. Never apologize for being you!


Anonymous said...

Awesome! Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

One Way To Figure Out Your Column Has Gone to $h!t

#1: You resort to posting forwarded chain emails.

I don't know why I even bother clicking on the link for this blog anymore.

by the way, I did not get this from a forwarded email.

Anonymous said...

you and tonya jamison should get married, if your not the same person.

Anonymous said...

An engagement ring is not a "gift" from a man to a woman. It's a symbol of a couple's intention to get married. Should that not happen, the ring should be returned to the guy. Any woman with any amount of class knows that.

Anonymous said...

Regarding your list of things never to apologize for... Try turning the tables and see if it feels the same way. For example, substitute "Never" with "Never expect him to", and turning the situation around. Doesn't have the same feel does it? Instead of posting divisive drivel such as this, how about some space devoted to uplifting both women AND men, for a change. Male bashing is childish and pathetic at your age. Stand up and take responsibility and be accountable like the strong woman you should be!

Anonymous said...

A bit touchy, aren't we? There was no "divisive drivel" in the message. With the exception of maybe points 11, 14, and 24 I don't see why it couldn't apply to men, either.