Friday, January 25, 2008

If you want him, act like it!

A friend recently had a frustrating run-in with a woman, and I want to share it. File this under "things you don't do when you're interested in someone."

My friend had dated this woman before, and he knew she admired a certain artist. When he found out the artist was having a show, he invited her to see the exhibit, and he'd buy dinner after. She agreed and said she would meet him at the gallery at 6.

Well, 6 o'clock on the appointed night came and went. The woman didn't show at the gallery and didn't call. My friend is looking at the art and talking to people, but he's getting worried. Around 7 she calls, and, as my friend puts it, "is like, 'what's up?' as if nothing's wrong." He explained he'd been at the gallery for an hour waiting on her. She didn't apologize, she just said that she had run errands. She asked him to stay there and she would arrive in half an hour.

At this point in the story I complimented my friend on his composure -- because I would have gone off -- and his patience in giving her the benefit of the doubt. And she did show up half an hour later, but get this. When she explained her tardiness, she said it was because she stayed late at the office to do some work. No, she wasn't on a deadline; she just decided to do it. Then she ran errands that weren't necessary; she just took care of them. She didn't even bother to lie! And yes, she said she knew he was at the gallery.

I was slack-jawed at the gall of this woman. She made it clear the last time they'd seen each other that she was interested in pursuing a relationship. So how could she treat him like this? You don't make plans, then come sashaying in at your own convenience. If she was "testing" him, she was the one who flunked. He'll never call her again.

I think her behavior was inexcusable, and she was lucky my friend didn't cuss her out. What do you think?

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

there are two sides to every story

Gene said...

I would not have waited nor seen her again.

Anonymous said...

Everyone runs late from time to time. But when you don't even bother to call the other person that's just rude and the sign of someone totally selfish and wrapped up in themselves. People who are ALWAYS late generally have control issues....they want you waiting on them and not the other way around. Send her packing.

Anonymous said...

Anyone else notice just how fugly that Olsen skank looks in not just one but both pictures posted on charlotte.com

Does anyone actually think that is an attractive human being????

She looks like a drugged out prostitute.

Hollywood really messes young girls up.

You should do a blog on how the media puts ugly girls like these in front of us, tells us to believe they're attractive and then women in the "real world" try to copy their disgusting look.

Anonymous said...

She was wrong...dead wrong. She should've called and said she was going to be late, but it seems as though she didn't care he was waiting on her. If she indicated she was interested in him before, I'll bet she is so clueless, or so full of herself, that she will now wonder why he isn't calling. Then she'll say something stupid like, "He's just not that into me," and continue to be by herself.

Anonymous said...

Maybe she's working the hard-to-get technique. I would have called off the date and never called her again. Very disrespectful of the guy's time and good will - probably shows how she would act in a relationship.

Anonymous said...

Anon @12:14...2 sides to every story? I think we heard enough about both sides to know this woman needs to have her A** kicked. Her behavior was uncalled for. There are many of us out there that would love to find a man this thoughtful and generous but have a hard time thanks to heifers like this one. In this day and time the good men have built up walls because of being treated like that and really...who could blame them.

Anonymous said...

My question to you is, Why didn't your friend tell the woman to not bother showing up at the gallery? Was he curious to hear her excuses?

It's admirable that he was mature and took the high road by not cussing her out. That needn't stop a person, however, from having some guts to stand up for yourself and let the gal know that you found her behavior inexcusable.

What did your friend say to her? Why don't we actually call people out anymore when they are inconsiderate?

Anonymous said...

could this blog get any stupider?

Anonymous said...

Your friend showed remarkable restraint. That or he has a poor sense of self worth. Hopefully he's ditched her and considers himself to be well rid of her. At least he got to see some cool art.

Hey! Maybe she's one of those high maintenance women. You think?

Melvin the Reticulate said...

Art gayleries for the intenents?

Anonymous said...

Sounds like something my ex-fiancee would have done. Who knows, maybe it was her!

Anonymous said...

I certainly wouldn't have "cussed" her out. I'm a gentleman in whatever the situation. Cussing someone out or even suggesting it shows a big personality flaw that won't survive any relationship. Those type people we usually wind up supporting through government programs to help feed their future gang-life children.

my thoughts said...

no call and no show...don't answer the phone and move along...bad manners/no manners