Friday, October 19, 2007

He said ‘I love you’ – after one week!

A man and a woman meet for their first date. Sparks are flying. There’s a connection, something neither have felt in many months. He was in a new place, not exactly knowing where to look for women. She was busy with school and work, not exactly enough time to find a mate.

The date was a hit. They part that evening, with 100 miles separating their lives, and they can’t get their minds off of each other. They talk every day on the phone and make plans to meet one week later.

That date finally arrives and it’s a magical evening of dinner, a movie and holding hands.

Then, out of nowhere, it happens. He says: I love you.

Whoa, horsey … I love you? After one week? What? Are you kidding me? How does he know? One week! Are you talking to me (as she looks over her shoulder)?

She feels strongly for this guy, but … wow … to utter that special phrase is a big step. You don’t just throw that around like it’s nothing, buddy. She’s taken aback, flattered at the same time. She manages to say she’s fallen for him but using the big ILY is moving just a tad fast.

Two weeks later, she realizes this is the guy for her and it isn’t so hard to say. It felt right. It was meant to be. He just knew it before she did.

Who says there’s a true timetable on using those three words?

Besides, it only took Alisha three weeks, and her husband one.

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

If you believe in love at first site this works, every love affair has it's own personal way of working so if this works for these two, bless them and best of luck!
Love is a many many splendid thing!

Charlotte Mortgages said...

Most guys say those three words for the 'wrong reasons'.

Anonymous said...

That is awesome! There is still hope out there for us single girls!!

Anonymous said...

My husband and I both said we were falling in love and believed we would marry after one week (on our 4th date). I had been engaged once before and broken it off, and had NEVER felt this sure before in my life. It's 5 years later, married 3 years, and the love is stronger and richer than ever.

If you've never experienced this connection, it's easy to be cynical. But if you know yourself well and trust in your own judgment, I think you'll recognize genuine feelings if/when you meet the person who is right for you.

Anonymous said...

Alisha--
I hope I'm not out of line sharing this personal tidbit about you.

As your friend (and roommate during the time you met your future husband) I was a little worried for you that things then seemed to be moving too fast. I was cynical; my logical side wanted to ask you "Yeah, but how do you really know?" Time logged in the relationship seemed so important in order to reach the 'til-death-do-us-part decision.

Then when Ed and I started dating, not only was "I love you" said so soon, but after less than a month we knew we were getting married. With years of marriage under our belts we've never had any doubts.

Obviously, I'm a cynic no more. But it still amazes me how the initial click with someone can turn into a lifetime of powerful love. It also taught me the lesson that sometimes it's tough to judge a relationship from the outside looking in...even when it's just out of concern for a friend. :)

Anonymous said...

By the way...

Happy Anniversary Alisha and Richard.

Love,
Jenn

Anonymous said...

When you know, you just know. Alisha and Richard, you are very fortunate to have found each other and both of you to have "known." Consider that gift a blessing.

Happy Anniversary...

Shannon

Anonymous said...

My husband and I said the magic words within the first three weeks and have been together 7 years :)

Anonymous said...

Men are full of shit when they say I love you on the first date. They either want sex or something else like money from the girl, or have deep routed psychological problems. These men will break up with you days later after falsely capturing your heart and throwing you to the curb for no known reason. Beware of people who want to get close too fast. They are NOT sincere. You cannot love a person after the first date.

Anonymous said...

That is a logical fallacy. The fact that people DO fall in love so quickly, disproves that statment. It cannot be argued that they are then stupid, because again, it happens.

Samtastic said...

I mean, that commenter has been obviously treated really badly by someone or someones, and is obviously in pain that's crystallized into cynicism. Some men do lie about those things to get sex or other things from women, and it can really really hurt-- i would never blame the victim for that. (I'm sure women lie sometimes too). It just sucks for her that she can't see that it's not always the case.

I have experienced some of that dishonesty, and am now experiencing the weird first stages of what this thread is describing, for me an unprecedentedly deep connection. Love you said after a day etc.

But I am still dealing with the aftermath of those other experiences, so I am moving slowly and having to deal with all my doubt. It's all weird, sooo weird. That's how i ended up on this thread!

lex said...

I am in the exact same boat as you.

Anonymous said...

I have been talking 2 him on a dating site off and on for a few months. Only 4 days ago we decided 2 exchange numbers and talk over the phone because we had a lot of things in common. Instantly I felt the connection and he did as well. We literally talk on the phone from sun up 2 sun down. The experience. Has been magical. We feel like we've known each other for years
Now early moring like 4ish we our having our normal talks about us and our future. Mind you i was kinda tired. Im relaxing with my eyes closed and i hear the words i love u being spoken. I thought i was hearing things. I let it slide......half hour later he says it again. I was taken back and immediately let him know that that should be saved for a special moment. He went on 2 explain why he loves me. We haven't. Even meet though.
The crazy thing is that i feel strongly about him 2 and know that it is all real. Its like a little piece of heaven on earth because i believe i found my soul. Mate

Lolly said...

I fell for my man very quickly, I knew without a doubt that I loved him - love comes in many shapes and forms.

http://blog.carsieblanton.com/post/82149148832/casual-love

I refer you to this article, my favourite article ever written, it makes a hell of a lot of sense.

stunned from love said...

I am going through this right now...after 1.5 weeks he is professing his love for me and telling me he wants to build a future with me..I'm so scared and skeptical even though I am feeling in my heart this seems heaven sent. We are both almost 50 and I am not gullible or desparate. I have been single for 25 years after a deep heart break. Even though I've dated and tried relationships it never felt right. I feel like I have a connection with him somehow. I am questitoning his motives and he keeps assuring me. Help.

Unknown said...

Hi Everyone,

Im just another girl thats a bit confused. He tells me straightaway after the night that i meet up with him for the first time. And then he says he loves me. Im very confused. I know it might not be true and he just wants to get into my pants. But he says with sincerity without shaking his voice and he keeps telling me how come i didn't answer back. Dont i believe in him. He then explains how what he's seeing in me is what he's looking for. I dont do drugs, smoke or gambling. Plus he saw im quite, shy and sweet which he likes in a girl plus im asian and he likes bigger girl. He says, Im perfect i dont need to lose weight or diet. Im perfect. I guess i can say he does like bigger while im on the other hand im selfconscious because i am chubby gal. So i have insecurities. I wont believe what he's saying at all everytime. When we had dinner he open the cap of my juice and keep my table clean and clear. He also put waters on my glass eventhough he doesn't drink the water hes drinking a fizzy drink. Which i find that he might be genuine in the 2nd date.
3rd date 2 weeks he keeps telling me i love you 5th time but still I doubts and he tells me don't think him wrong. He even want me to meet his brother last night because his brother knows were meeting each other.
But i still doubts. But I do see qualities that i like. Hes a gentleman with everything.
Also he kisses me in public and put his touque on me which i find a bit overwhelming to me. Im conservative i tell him that. I can give him a peck or a long peck but going all out tounge is too much that someone sees might be a bit uncomfortable even i am. I guess he is very passionate and affectionate. And then he stops and smile that im a shy girl but he dont mind as he loves me.
But do you think this is real love? He is declaring to me. I want to give him my heart but im still guarding it as im afraid to get my heart broken. Well as for me it's so new to me the whole i love you as i have never been in love. I find it hard to trust guys. Eventhough there were men and even at highschool asking me out but i chicken out and dont give them a chance and ignores them.

So i have asked my friends and mom. What i see in him and if i should believe. Thats why i find it hard to put myself out there and now i tried im confused.

Please help. what do i do? Should i trust him?

julie danbel said...

Hi Everyone,

Im just another girl thats a bit confused. He tells me straightaway after the night that i meet up with him for the first time. And then he says he loves me. Im very confused. I know it might not be true and he just wants to get into my pants. But he says with sincerity without shaking his voice and he keeps telling me how come i didn't answer back. Dont i believe in him. He then explains how what he's seeing in me is what he's looking for. I dont do drugs, smoke or gambling. Plus he saw im quite, shy and sweet which he likes in a girl plus im asian and he likes bigger girl. He says, Im perfect i dont need to lose weight or diet. Im perfect. I guess i can say he does like bigger while im on the other hand im selfconscious because i am chubby gal. So i have insecurities. I wont believe what he's saying at all everytime. When we had dinner he open the cap of my juice and keep my table clean and clear. He also put waters on my glass eventhough he doesn't drink the water hes drinking a fizzy drink. Which i find that he might be genuine in the 2nd date.
3rd date 2 weeks he keeps telling me i love you 5th time but still I doubts and he tells me don't think him wrong. He even want me to meet his brother last night because his brother knows were meeting each other.
But i still doubts. But I do see qualities that i like. Hes a gentleman with everything.
Also he kisses me in public and put his touque on me which i find a bit overwhelming to me. Im conservative i tell him that. I can give him a peck or a long peck but going all out tounge is too much that someone sees might be a bit uncomfortable even i am. I guess he is very passionate and affectionate. And then he stops and smile that im a shy girl but he dont mind as he loves me.
But do you think this is real love? He is declaring to me. I want to give him my heart but im still guarding it as im afraid to get my heart broken. Well as for me it's so new to me the whole i love you as i have never been in love. I find it hard to trust guys. Eventhough there were men and even at highschool asking me out but i chicken out and dont give them a chance and ignores them.

So i have asked my friends and mom. What i see in him and if i should believe. Thats why i find it hard to put myself out there and now i tried im confused.

Please help. what do i do? Should i trust him?

Mix said...

If your man is pushing you away and acting distant

Or if the guy you’re after isn’t giving you the time of day...

Then it’s time to pull out all the stops.

Because 99% of the time, there is only 1 thing you can say to a standoffish guy that will grab him by the heartstrings-

And get his blood pumping at just the thought of you.

Insert subject line here and link it to: Your ex won’t be able to resist?

Once you say this to him, or even send this simple phrase in a text message...

It will flip his world upside down and you will suddenly find him chasing you-

And even begging to be with you.

Here’s what I’m talking about:

Insert subject line here and link it to: Is your man hiding something? He may need your help?

Thanks again.











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