Wednesday, August 23, 2006

First date aid

I'm on a dating hiatus right now (which I know I'll have to end soon, or you'll all start fussing at me -- "How can you write about relationships if you're not even in one?"), but that doesn't mean I've stopped doing my homework. Cosmo editor Kate White has an informative book out with an eye-catching title: "How To Set His Thighs On Fire: 86 Red-Hot Lessons on Love, Life, Men, and (Especially) Sex." She offers solid advice in it, including help for what many of us single folk probably dread the most: the first date.

Kate (I can call her Kate, 'cause I feel like we're friends) says: "No matter how well you click with a guy, early on in a relationship there can be clunky conversational moments when a topic has run its course and your brain suddenly freezes. You can't think of one single thing to say, and he seems momentarily tongue-tied as well."

I've been there, and it's ugly, people.

Kate offers a roundup of her favorite questions, and I think they're pretty good ones. Not only will they keep the conversation going, but the answers give you more insight into the person than a banal "So, whaddaya think about this weather? Pretty sticky, huh?" ever could. But be careful, Kate warns: "Just don't ask them all at once or he'll think you're trying to play Barbara Walters."

1. What's the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
2. Where do you want to visit before you die?
3. What movie do you never get tired of watching?
4. What's your favorite time of the day?
5. If you could have dinner with anyone, whom would you choose?
6. Is there anything you're superstitious about?
7. If you had an extra hour each day, how would you spend it?
8. What day of your life would you like to live over again?
9. What's the craziest dare you've ever gone through with?
10. If you had to choose, would you rather be rich or famous?
11. Do you remember who taught you to ride a bike?


Anonymous said...

You're going to start dating so you can feel valid in making blog entries about relationships?

Oh, that's a good, solid basis for starting a relationship!

Anonymous said...

In response to the above comment, I think Deirdre meant she will start dating again so she can at least have some credibility in writing a blog about dating and relationships. There's a difference between casual dating and being in a relationship (duh!). I'm sure she won't choose her next serious boyfriend or husband just because of this blog...but she can certainly entertain us about the adventure of meeting him when she does! (Note to Deirdre: don't use "He's Just Not That Into You" as a basis for deciding if he's right for you. I hate that book. Speaking of books, stop talking about dating advice books and just get out there!)

BD said...

Uncomfortable silences, indeed...

Anonymous said...

anon 8/23 @ 10:08 just validated what anon 8/23 10:02 said:

the only difference is anon 8/23 @ 10:08 added "about dating and"

so anon 8/23 10:02 is still right!