Deirdre: A friend of mine turned me on to a Web site: True Wife Confessions (warning: graphic content). She's married and visits the site to see what other women are saying about their relationships. It's an intense site. Now that you've seen it, what do you think?Alisha: W.O.W. Just spending 10 minutes reading through some of those confessions has evoked all kinds of feelings: shock, empathy, sadness, relief and ... I could keep going.
Deirdre: I know. That's how I felt as well.
Alisha: I wonder how many of them are sincere confessions?
Deirdre: That was my big question. I think there's an unspoken agreement between bloggers and readers that the blogger is being truthful. I don't lie or embellish on our blog and you don't either. But we're journalists. It goes against our nature to lie (and there are more of us than there are Jayson Blairs in our profession). Many people on the blogsphere might not be so conscientious.
Alisha: Some of the entries seem to be a very accurate depiction of how much a relationship can be a roller coaster of good and bad times.
Deirdre: Yeah, but most of the comments aren't suitable for non-adults -- there's talk of unsatisfying sex lives, child custody issues, adultery, abortions, people falling out of love -- or for everyday conversation, either. So what I appreciate about the site is that it gives women a place to vent their pain, anger, shame when they may not feel comfortable sharing such information with family members, a therapist or a minister.
Alisha: On the flip side, the success of the site seems to be a sad commentary that some women don't feel they can communicate their deepest and darkest feelings with their partner. I'd love to know how many men read the site, and how many of those are the husbands, boyfriends and friends of these women who post "anonymous" confessions.
Deirdre: Me too! But chicks would have to tell their men to go look. Dudes doing Google searches for "wife" and "confessions" are probably looking for something in see-through lingerie and stripper heels, not sentences like "Right after we got married, I wanted to divorce you."
Alisha: True, but I'm thinking that men are much smarter than we give them credit for. Thanks for the introduction to the site. I suggest you bookmark it, gals!
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5 comments:
Wow whata soap opera. I am a dude and got a feeling most women would enjoy this site. I have no desire to go back to the site.
I think some drama queens and exhibitionists are writing on that site... probably some real people in between.
That said, I found the entries stomach-churning b/c of what is expressed: the anger and self-centeredness especially. We have some sick, mean people out there--women and men both, depending on who really did what.
BTW, I have a mentally ill niece with borderline personality disorder. The main symptoms of the disorder are lying and manipulation, and playing the victim--devised at getting attention. This kind of site will be attractive to those types of ill people.
I'm a woman and I don't enjoy that site either. It's just too sad and train-wreckish.
There's no guarantee these are "true" confessions. Post anonymously and you can lie all you want.
Remember those warnings about how not everything you read on the Internet is true? Deirdre's married friend should keep that in mind... No names,no accountability.
I am a woman and I think if most of the women truly feel the way they do in those blogs, they need therapy.
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